I know a few people who never adopted another cat because they were so heartbroken, and I so badly don’t want to be that, but the pain seers and feels like it will never not feel raw. May you find healing and peace, and may you know when the time is right to get a cat after yours passes. How do you even begin to heal yourself after this?!? She looked peaceful, but I can’t get over how unfair it all is. It was heartbreaking to see him like this. For example, many say they will never have another cat at first. A couple yrs later at church,I found the best man a woman could ask for! You gave Obi the best 19 years. Big mistake! He had just turned 11 the week before. We took her in to have her pain ended. Family and friends have been supportive, but I want to be alone in my grief. i adopted a senior cat 3 months after the loss of my baby girl spooky. I feel like we honored her memory by adopting a shelter kitten- as she was an abandoned kitty too. But he’d gotten so thin and skinny. It’s my ego trying to make me feel guilty. Today has been another very difficult day because today I know she is being cremated! She was my best friend. Misty Blue was a RagDoll & she never made it to her 4th birthday, that would of been December 11, 2015. Maybe he thought your Chasca somehow was the head of the household and he was afraid of her……Or maybe he thought Chasca was taking you away….No one knows what really goes on in a kitty’s head. However, we think it was a stroke – Friday morning she was a bit off and by Saturday, her back legs were so weak. Sorry Sam. Most viruses don't survive for long in the environment or are 'killed' by disinfectant. They sent flowers and cards, which was so thoughtful. The only thing that slightly lifted our sadness today was talking about this. Not to adopt; just to be around the cats and away from all that empty at home. Well, Buttons started getting sick a couple of years ago and we stayed on top of her thyroid condition but the last few months she started taking a turn for the worse. I read him a story from a book that I had been reading to him before, in our bathroom when he came home from the vets just days before. I’m just so in love with her and I will be forever- but this new kitty that needs love too is a good distraction, and that’s really nice during such an extensely painful time. I can’t sleep or eat. I cant go into my appartment without balling my eyes out. install barbed wire? I’m like what am I supposed to do with him? I’m getting some tastes back a little. My cat died about six months ago and I still am not over it. It may take some time, but acceptance is a must for anyone who has lost a loved one. Prepare yourself. And reading these comments helped me to understand I’m not alone. She was the most amazing pet. I lost my cat 15 years ago, and I still feel sad when I think of her. Despite having this occur when she was just 1 year old, we decided (after many trips to the vet and many different diets) that an ultrasound was required. His breathing was labored and rapid, so I called the vet and brought him in. My KitKat died two days ago. and I’m so angry that I wasn’t there to protect her…you can image what I would like to do to that dog! We’re thinking about getting a new kitten but I just feel guilty if I love another cat, but it doesn’t mean that I don’t love him any less. I called the vet, frantic. Babe started wanting water from the tap. She had a kitten to love, and that was all that mattered. Copyright © 2020 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen. Sure, I miss my boy and I think of him often-it’s been over a year. Consider getting another cat. Whether the pet died after a short or long struggle, many of us wonder if there were routes not explored, medications not taken, surgeries not performed. there’s no “closure”! So here we are almost 2 months later. At first I compared her to my little guy. Hello. I always had cats when i was a kid and wanted to get a cat at this point in my life so i did years ago. As I read through your comments, I hope to be able to adopt another kitty someday and to have the bond that I had with Luna.. we loved each other so much, but right now that feels impossible.. my heart aches…I missed her, so, so much.. She was self-aware, grooming herself by preference in front of the mirror. We miss you so much, and Ella really misses you too. She had actually brought her toy up on my bed the day before & I had made her a paper ball which she loved to fetch & bring back. That was day in and day out until one day I brought home a new fish in a bowl. Peedee, my oldest however took it in stride. I cannot imagine the pain of seeing him leave after another 7 yrs of bonding…. I watched him struggle to breathe, I held his big, soft body in a pink fuzzy robe from home that he loved. We had to put down my sweet girl Lucy yesterday- who was 14 months – because she got into the trash and ate some string. Try to love your new kitty for who he is. I feel guilt. I had my time with her, and she had a good home, because I met a beautiful kitten I wanted to take home with me. I don’t know if I can get another kitten. I began my walk through the garage to pick her up from the driveway when I saw the tailgate my husband had taken off the pickup and propped in the garage. An active and assertive cat may overwhelm quieter and more timid cats, making introductions difficult. There are just so many variables at play. This is the absolute worst timing for such a huge loss, as we are currently under a lot of stress, to the point where I have had shingles for over 4 months now, and my husband had shingles for about 5 weeks. I know I gave her the best like I could. But at the same time I’m already going crazy. Hers and my bond was so strong that there is nothing that can touch it, not even a bond with another cat during a different time just as strong. I dealt with a lot of issues the next few years and she was the only consistent thing in my life and loved me unconditionally despite everything. I want another cat, because I loved the company and coming home to his cute little self. My husband didn’t really want to get another pet, but it was a crisis situation…and we discovered fairly quickly that yes, it we wanted to adopt another animal. I’m looking into cats up for adoption at the moment. Making a little memorial for her will also help. First thing I did was google, why would a young cat die suddenly? Thank you. He always waited for me at the door when I came home from work. So sorry about your loss. – From a member of our She Blossoms Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/sheblossoms/. And it hurts. I went to a shelter a couple of weeks after I had to put my 11 year old kitty down. Holly is thanking you from above for taking her out of pain. I looked at him for the last time as she turned to go. The healthy cat will likely have blood tests indicating exposure to coronavirus for the 3-6 months after the death of the sick cat. I don’t think you’ll ever be totally free of the pain of losing Jasper. Aww Susannah my heart breaks for you – such a devastating loss, I’m sorry :( I managed to get her to play and then she started to love. I tried following my mom’s advice and petting the other 2 cats for a change- one of them was pretty snappy and hates being picked up, the other one dug her claws into me immediately.  |  I will get another rescue cat sometime I just wish I could stop crying and the pain and guilt would go away. It’s how I’m feeling to a T. It hurts so bad I can’t breath sometimes. I thought this is a whole new experience-I am starting over. He was part of my life for 6 years, I rescued him from a terrible situation and gave him the best life I possibly could. Sam, We couldn’t do it. Do you think having another cat would help Leelee with her grieving? Don’t feel guilty. I kept him with me all day only leaving for a cup of coffee at an empty convenience store. This time there was no kitty to pet and grieve with. He was odd and funny and the biggest cuddle monster you’ve ever seen. I’ll keep you in my prayers…. Kaylee, I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s raw pain. We would have our cute little conversations and when I was sad she bit my leg, she did all these little things. We lost our little girl “Buttons” this afternoon after a long bout with thyroid issues and possible cancer. The only reason to hesitate is if you don’t feel your heart is healed from the loss of your previous cat. Just thoughts that are running through my head…, Oliver…mom misses you and you were truly my light. They’re a needed distraction from the grief, and something good to balance out the horrible. Just got up again to check! But that made him worse. Some more “ours” than others! Her death was unexpected and tragic and it’s my very first time losing a pet to unnatural causes. i said no as i felt it was too soon and would be disrespectful to my boy. My mood right now is the sooner the better but I also know that I’m still grieving for Vitamin and it feels like I’m betraying her very memory by even considering getting a new cat. I knew I wanted to be with him when he went to sleep, and I held him as he passed. I needed the comfort of another kitty around-I wanted to rescue another one and bring it home to love. The entire experience was beautiful. And like you said, it’s so important to give yourself time to grieve your cat’s death. Trisha, we are exactly where you were. She never cried in pain,but we could tell she was suffering. When I graduated college and came home I had noticed she lost a significant amount of weight, which I thought was due to stress since me and my mom had both been out of the house for a while and my dad was taking care of her and did not give her the attention we did. We were so lucky to have him for so long though it never is long enough. I prepared the final Arrangements and had to be practically pryed out of the building because I just didn’t know how to leave him. I hate myself for it. I don’t know if I can adopt another cat yet my house is lonely and there is a whole in my heart. All the doctors he worked with told me that I had done more for him then most people would have. I am crying every day and feeling guilty. Not even sure why I wrote this. It’s even worse when you’re coping with guilt and regret. :( i really miss him and he died the 24th and today is only the 25th well even yesterday i wa smissing him super badly. The next morning, they found blood on the walls of his cage. My boy was 2 when i got him, so getting a girl kitten has been very different. I visited him yesterday and today. I was so ready to get another cat but I have doubts that it might be too soon. I think it’d because he wants to be the only cat(except Turbo,for now) but I believe that he knows how much I need a special one to talk to,that he won’t want me to be sad n lonely without him.I can’t imagine losing him n feeling that hole n not having a little one to cuddle with n hello me through it. But I am happy that I can dedicate a lot of new things to this new kitty-Addy- in Alice’s memory, even though I’m still hurting so badly. I know exactly how you feel. I buried him with the chicken. I have seen one I like but worry it’s too soon.? But I knew he wouldn’t be mad. Can’t quite bring myself to put away his things as I am trying to convince myself he has only gone outside to greet the neighbours and I expect to see him pawing at the door to be let in. Photography by CAHKT/Thinkstock. As the author says, it’s a personal decision when or if to welcome a new ball of fluff into your life. I m going through the very same.. it is a rainy, grey day today where I live.. Dogs adapt faster than cats: one to two weeks versus a month to six weeks. The intensity of our love, bond, and relationship is easy to understand. I also know talking about it helps the healing process. Animals And Pet Supplies. Some experts recommend waiting six months before getting another cat; others recommend periodic blood tests to monitor antibodies against coronavirus and introducing a new cat only when the test is zero. The doctor said it was neurological. I have no idea how to cope with this. As soon as the shower went on he would go to his room and settle on his perch to say hello to the neighbors walking their dogs….everyone said Good Morning Sterling! I was partial to the idea at first but then I saw a picture of a litter of kittens that was being given away and I couldn’t help myself! Myla has been my best friend for fourteen years. Perhaps even adopt a pair! I’m sorry to hear about your Petrie… loss is such a heavy feeling, but it sounds like Nelly came into your life at a perfect time and I hope she is helping to help make your heart feel lighter. Animals grieve their friends, and they don’t like to be alone. He didn’t deserve to suffer like that. Very sad because everything about her was functioning but her jaw which prevented the most important thing…eating. Now this person is selling her home and needs someone to care for “Mr. Another consideration is your personality, lifestyle, and home situation. My beautiful Petals was five years old. But apparently she is here to stay and thats it so is there anything i can do to enjoy the experience more and stop feeling upset about my other cat. The healthy cat will likely have blood tests indicating exposure to coronavirus for the 3-6 months after the death of the sick cat. Your email address will not be published. We discussed how to keep her comfortable and the vet suggested we try a steroid shot. You always provide me with a great deal of insight. Besides work, I stayed home for about a month. Hi, I had beutiful girl cat who I sadly had to gave put your sleep a little while ago, She was 14, She was my baby my friend but overall was there when I was feeling down, I miss her every day and I still cry but she had a good life She was 5 when I took her in from a cattery she hadn’t been handled and always lived in a garage but a few weeks with my family she loved nothing better than to be picked up and cuddled, She would cry look up and arch her back as to say pick me up, We loved her dearly and I no in my heart I can give another cat a lovely home and love it just the same. I just found this site when searching for whether or not it was ok to get another kitten after your cat’s death. We can never measure up to the wonderful beings they are I have two more cats, one is Hobbes brother, and a Dennis the menace named stitch.he is 4. We took the vet’s advice to put her down as he said she wouldn’t last another 2 days. She kept me going when all I wanted to do was give up. she’s not as fiesty and adventurous, but through manerisms, i think squeeks spirit is in their somewhere, and i believe my boy has found his way back home .. Shauna thank you. There’s so many little kids too it’s just horrible. Alicia, I’m wondering everyone’s opinion on when the right time would be to bring another furry friend home. We lost our other cat earlier this year to kidney disease. My heart goes out to you. One common thread among mother cats is that they are likely to move their kittens around quite a bit in the immediate days after birth. This whole situation is my nightmare and I still cry all the time. I think the most important thing is to process your grief about losing Luna. I miss him too much. 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